I fully expected to be frustrated, upset, in love with this place and in awe all at the same time. Anyone that moves to a new location, whether abroad or to a new town usually experiences a full range of emotions. I remember when we first moved to Thailand and I didn't even have a bike and I felt like I was totally stuck. It was too hot to walk anywhere and I had 3 littles under 6, so that made walking anywhere even more difficult. I was frustrated, felt completely alone, and would go days without even talking with another adult. I hated it. I ended my time in Thailand with an amazing group of friends. The boys had friends they could play with everyday in our neighborhood. I could hop on my motorbike and take the kids to a coffee shop or out to lunch when we needed a break. My life was full, we were all happy, I really could not have asked for a better time in my life.
After a month in Chile, I have been transported right back to my first year in Thailand. I don't really know anyone and don't really have anyway to meet anyone. I don't have a phone, a car, a bike, any transportation and the boys have not really had a chance to make any friends. And you know what? I hate it. I'm angry we moved. I'm missing the amazing support system I had in Thailand. There is no place within walking distance that the boys and I can go to escape our house. I'm frustrated and lonely.
I'm not posting this for sympathy or a pat on the back, but posting to show the full range of the life we have chosen. I post these beautiful pictures from amazing places we have been and it may seem like we are all very happy and enjoying our new home. I wanted to make sure that I kept it real because so often we only see one side of the story. The side that looks good to everyone. We don't see the difficult side of the story.
I do see a glimmer of hope that has been pulling me through my current set of frustrations. I see us 3,4,5 years down the road here and I see us happy, fulfilled, and complete. It took me 5 years to build the community I had in Thailand. It was a lot of work and took a lot of time. It was so many playdates and uncomfortable situations. It was pushing and stretching myself to get out there and meet people when all I wanted to do was stay home. It was meeting so many people and waiting to find the ones we connected with and friends that were positive influences for the boys.
I know all of this can be possible here in Chile too. It's going to take a lot of time. There will be lots of outbursts and temper tantrums, mostly from me. :) But we will get there little by little.
I saw this posted today and I am going to try and make today a better day by remembering this.
